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Destiny is the Road, Fate Awaits

Free Will and Free Choice are Rarely Free

(LB) James 4:2B,3: “And yet the reason you don’t have what you want is that you don’t ask God for it. And even when you do ask you don’t get it because your whole aim is wrong–you want only what will give you pleasure.”

The dictionary defines destiny and fate as synonyms of each other. I disagree. Destiny is the road chosen and there are many.  A different fate awaits at the end of each road and can be as diverse as the many roads we travel. Free will and free choice are rarely free, there are consequences…

The two most important decisions you will ever make in your life are whether or not you trust Jesus as your Lord and Savior, which determines where you will spend eternity–in heaven or hell–and who you marry. Remember your vows, “Till death do we part?”

We all make bad mistakes and fall to temptation. The Good News is that God forgives our mistakes. We can always have a new beginning. But we always pay the consequences for our mistakes such as guilt, shame, hurt, anger, financial defeat and remorse. These things are like PTSD–Post Traumatic Stress Disorders. Why should you suffer these because of bad choices?

All through the Bible God tells us that we have choices. If we choose His way, we get blessings. If we choose our way, we get consequences–every time. He makes it very clear that there are two sins that really bring His wrath–worshipping false gods–and sex sin. Remember Sodom and Gomorrah? Sex sin is simply sex outside of marriage, period. Lust, fornication and adultery and even worshipping sex as a false god covers all aspects of sex sin.


The Right Questions to Ask…

Since God describes Himself as, “I AM Love,” if a person doesn’t have God in their lives, they don’t have pure and true love in their lives. Just asking a person of interest if they are a Christian is not enough! You need to know if they walk their talk. A person could have accepted Christ when they were young and then tell God, “Thanks God, I’ll take it from here…” and pursue worldly pleasures when they are older.

Here’s a few questions you can ask to narrow down your field of love interests:

1. Do you attend church regularly?

2. Who is your pastor and are you involved in any ministry?

3. Do you have and read your Bible daily? Do you have a daily quiet time with the Lord?

If they have a hard time with these questions, they are not walking their talk. It’s as simple as that. Remember these PEW stats: 1. Five percent of couples who pray together daily get divorces. 2. Less than 1% of couples who read their Bibles daily get divorces. Numbers don’t lie…

Solomon, the richest, wisest man on earth said at the end of his life, “Life is vanity. The beginning of wisdom is fearing God and keeping His commandments…”  Good luck in your choices.

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Author: Kalpana Murthy  June 16, 2014  10:00 am

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