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Equally Yoked

Relationships are Easy. It’s the Breaking Up that’s Hard

(KJV) 2 Corinthians 6:14, “Be you not unequally yoked together with unbelievers; for what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion has light with darkness.”

Where are all the good, godly men and women? Are they all taken? No, they are not all taken. You just have to look a little harder for them and don’t let beauty, riches or self centeredness get in your way. Like Johnny Lee sang in his lyrics, “Looking for love in all the wrong places. Looking for love with too many faces.” Think on that for a moment or two…you’ll get it eventually.

John Hagee, Pastor of Cornerstone Church in San Antonio, spoke a sermon to the single ladies in his congregation about choosing a mate. He said, “First and foremost, if your boyfriend is not a Christian man, RUN! That’s the first step in being equally yoked.” Are these words of wisdom? Remember, “No Fixer-Uppers, ladies.”

Grounds for Divorce

God said simply in (NIV) Malachi 2:16 A “I hate divorce!”

The Bible goes on to state that there are two grounds for divorce with grounds being the key word. You don’t necessarily have to get a divorce because when you spoke your wedding vows to God, you stated, “Till death do us part.” Remember saying that?

The two grounds for divorce are: For infidelity–adultery and second, if you marry an unbeliever and the unbeliever leaves, let them go. Today, there are many more reasons that are present such as physical abuse of spouse or children and we should address that. God does not expect anyone to be abused physically. If you or your children are in danger, get the heck outta there and pray for the recovery of the abusive spouse.

Everyone loves statistics. These divorce rate stats from PEW studies should give you many answers of how you should conduct your courtship, choose your mate and live your life in marriage: 1. 67-80% of people who live together before marriage get divorced. 2. 57% of couples who are married by a Justice of the Peace or in a wedding chapel ends in divorce. 3. 53% of people married in a church get divorced (the national average).  Here is where God’s guidance in marriage comes into play…4. 5% of married couples who pray together daily get divorced. 5. 0.7% of married couples who read their Bible daily together get a divorce. Numbers don’t lie. From 87% to less than 1%, God adds the glue that makes marriages work when we are close to Him and live our lives according to His word.

It’s never too late to make good choices before marriage and to keep a marriage strong after marriage.

Have you ever noticed that when you meet an equally yoked person that the relationship is easy and just flows naturally?  Try it next time. I think you’ll like it!  You have choices, blessings and consequences of bad choices. You choose. Start looking for love in all the right places!

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Author: Ron Mumford  May 19, 2014  10:00 am

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