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Excerpts, Chapter 11–”Baggage Fees”

Have You Ever had a Broken Heart?

 (LB) Psalms 147:3-4, “He heals the brokenhearted, binding up their wounds. He counts the stars and calls them by name.”

We all have baggage. Sometimes it’s more than we can carry by ourselves. The fees are higher than we can pay.

“And so it is very important for us to realize that love, to be true, has to hurt. I must be willing to give whatever it takes not to harm other people and, in fact, to do good to them. This requires that I be willing to give until it hurts…” Mother Theresa.

If you have never had a broken heart, consider yourself among the few and fortunate. Sam’s heart was beyond broken, it was vaporized with no pieces to be found or put back together. He couldn’t heal on his own, so he dealt with his anger instead of his hurt. Anger he could deal with! His friends used clichés such as, “Time heals all wounds, get over it!”  Sam really didn’t want to hear that. Nor did he want to hear the words of God when He answered  Job during his time of trouble by stating to Job, ” Where were you when I set the foundations of the earth…?” In other words, “I AM God, you are not, trust in me.”

Sometimes God uses hurt to shape us and give us wisdom by learning from our mistakes. We are called to remember that love is not a feeling, it is a life-long commitment. Easy to say, hard to accept.

You Must Forgive in order to be Forgiven 

At first, Sam tried to heal himself by saying, “I’ll make myself better for the next love of my life.” He tried to exercise his anger out of himself by doing 80,000 stomach crunches, walking over 500 miles and losing 25 pounds. All that left him with was a better image and more energy for continuing his anger.  Finally, Sam sat down with a minister. There had to be a better way. The hurt was still there.

The minister told Sam, “You know that you have to forgive her, Sam! Your healing won’t begin until you do.” Sam remembered the scorching 5-page letter that he had given to Sara. He realized that not only did he have to forgive her, he needed to ask for her forgiveness also. This was going to be tough.

Months later, Sara called Sam and wanted to be friends. Her “magical mystery tour to chose her chocolate” hadn’t quite turned out as she had planned. She told Sam that she was more confused now than ever. Sam did apologize to Sara and asked her to forgive him. The Bible says that we must forgive in order to be forgiven. It does not say that we have to forget! That’s where time comes in. Sam actually prayed for Sara and her two children for the next three years and then gave her to God in prayer by telling Sara:

Thank you, Sara for allowing me to love you. I forgive you. I sincerely hope that you can find it within your heart to forgive me…Go with God.”


There is so much more to this story of why Bad things happen to Good people. If your heart is broken, go to 


Author: Ron Mumford  May 12, 2014  10:00 am

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