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Are We Meant to be Together?

One Plus One Equals One

To marry or not to marry will be the second most important decision you will make in a lifetime.

Are we really meant to be together —men and women? During the six days of creation, after everything God created, He said, “It is good!” Do you know the only time He said, “It is not good,”? When He said in (LB) Genesis 2:18, It is not good for man to be alone; I will make a companion for him, a helper (or help mate) suited to his needs.”

You won’t find the term “soul mate” in the Bible. The word didn’t even appear in Webster’s Dictionary until 1822. There are many definitions of a soul mate, most made by mankind–”Someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. Someone who makes life come to life,”—Richard Bach. “Someone your soul desires to be with because that particular association offers enormous capacity for the expression of love.”—Dr. Carolyn Miller, PhD.  “A person temperamentally suited to one another—Webster’s Dictionary.

God’s definition of a soul mate is found in (LB) Mark 10:8b, “When two become one.” Love is not a feeling, it is an act, a commitment to another.

Will You Know Your Soul Mate?

You have to look close to see real soul mates in the Bible. You may say that Abraham and Sara were soul mates…but, Abraham allowed Sara to go into the kings harem by telling the king that Sara was his sister. Not exactly a soul mate, huh? When God arranges marriages, they become soul mates as in the stories of Adam & Eve, Hosea & Gomer (a prostitute), Priscilla & Aquinas and especially, Mary & Joseph.  Do you really think God would allow just anyone to be the step-father of His Son, Jesus? God is the greatest matchmaker!!!

There’s  stories in the book about love gone wrong and love done right. All the stories are true. Roger & Terry told their story, one of what could have been and what went wrong. We all learn from our mistakes. Long story short, Roger was a womanizer. He met Terry and only later when she told him to take a hike did he realize that Terry was, indeed, his soul mate. But, it was too late.

Terry asked him that age old question: “Where is our relationship going?” And Roger gave the age-old answer: “I like the relationship just as it is…!”  Wrong words, buddy.  Those words haunted Roger for the rest of his life.  He didn’t recognize a great, godly woman when she was standing right in front of him. He blew it, big time!  Don’t let this happen to you. You can’t recognize your soul mate unless you know what one is…That’s where backing off from dating, spending time in the desert to re-evaluate your life comes in. Read more at

Author: Ron Mumford  March 24, 2014  10:39 am

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